It's good to talk
|Posted on 29 August, 2018 at 23:40||comments (106)|
“I should…you should…why aren’t we at that stage yet…?”
These may be common phrases you hear, say to yourself or say to others. If so, maybe it’s time for a rethink about the expectations you are putting on yourself…and on others. Having such high expectations can have a detrimental effect on one’s mental health. Many clients who I work therapeutically with tend to have certain rigid and sometimes unrealistic expectations of how they should live their lives, how their relationships should be and where they should be at a particular life stage. The anxiety, stress, insomnia and depression that can accompany this pressure can have a long-lasting effect on some indiviudals - following them for many years and sometimes even being passed onto their children.
It’s time to stop, slow down and recalibrate
Setting ourselves goals is an important, mostly positive and proactive part of life. They help us to learn, grow, develop and sometimes impart wisdom onto others. For many people, goals are created, achieved and other goals created without much effort. For others, the idea of achieving something that feels challenging can be an anxiety provoking time. If this is the case for you, take a step back and look at the situation realistically. Who is putting this expectation on you? Is it warranted? Does it really matter? Are you in the right headspace to meet the expectation or is now not the right time? Take control of what you can control and decide what is the right plan of action for you. Try to look at the situation by putting less pressure and judgement on the outcomes and enjoy being flexible with them to suit your needs. The positive impact on your emotional wellbeing can be incredible as well as help to build your resilience.
Everyone is on their own journey
It’s important to remember that we are all creating our own paths and all come with a variety of skills, knowledge and backgrounds that have shaped how we view ourselves in the world. Different people who have had different experiences will have different expectations of themselves and of others. Whilst it is useful to hold ourselves and others responsible for certain things so that we can give and receive feedback, it is also important to show patience and humility as well as kindness to ourselves and others. Let’s start viewing expectations as our friends who help to enrich and stimulate our minds, bodies and souls. We are all individuals trying to work through our lives in our own way - be mindful of this and start looking after yourself and others with your expectations.
|Posted on 22 September, 2016 at 19:05||comments (217)|
|Posted on 11 September, 2016 at 21:50||comments (185)|
What are we searching for in life? What things are important to us as an individual? Not everyone is the same but one thing that many people share in common, is that they are unsure what they are searching for... Is this you?
"When you build a house, every brick counts. When you build a character, every thought counts. You are what you think. Love, purity, peace, wisdom - the more you think of these qualities, the more you will become them." Brahma Kumaris, Australia.
Reading this today made me realise that these four qualities are extrememly important to me, not only because I wish to receive them but also because I wish to be a provider of such positive energies to others. Once we explore what is important to us, we can empower ourselves to take action and therefore enrich our lives.
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|Posted on 1 September, 2016 at 22:40||comments (38)|
Welcome to my blog. Thank you for taking the time to read it - hopefully there will be a few golden nuggets within the pieces that I share with you that will help you on your own personal journey or help with someone that you know who may struggle at times.
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